Dear Wedding,
When we left off, Bossy and her brand new husband had just completed their vows, and the guests were filing into the converted barn to cool off drink until they no longer noticed the blistering Heat Index.
As the seventy guests milled around slurping the locally produced wine, many were captured on video offering advice to the newly married couple:
It may warm your heart to know, dear Wedding, that most of the people who were in attendance that day twenty years ago are still very much a part of Bossy’s life.
Except in a few heartbreaking instances:
The guests filled the room with chatter and Marvin Gaye played on the cassette deck and a late lunch was served, buffet style:
While the room socialized around big rented tables, Bossy’s photographer friend—who volunteered to photograph Bossy’s wedding—took amazing portraits of the bride and groom and every single guest.
Oh wait, dear Wedding—Bossy doesn’t actually know if the photographs were amazing because she never received even one picture from her friend.
Luckily Bossy’s friend Ronny stayed on the job documenting and later editing what would eventually become The Wedding Video. And Ronny really captured the moments:
Soon it was time to cut the cake, which was a simple two-tier job. Bossy remembers something about Buttercream, which may just be her favorite word. Is it one word?
Following the distribution of the buttercream with buttercream on top, a few more guests toasted Bossy and her brand new Husband:
Meanwhile Bossy was meandering among her friends and family soaking up the day and every drop of surrounding humidity all the way to the tips of her hair follicles. Which is when someone shouted across the room to Bossy using the word “Mrs” followed by her new married name.
But knowing just what to do, Bossy’s new Husband swooped in to make a panicky Bossy feel better:
With the first marital drama resolved, Bossy’s husband enjoyed a swig of his own.
If you can believe it, dear Wedding, occasionally Bossy and her husband sat their booze down so they could free up their hands for more important matters:
All too soon the guests approached the bride and groom and told them that the wedding was over and it was time to leave the party and begin what would become their regular life:
So the two meandered out to the field and climbed into Bossy’s mom’s car, which had been decorated with the help of an entire Paper Goods store. And off the couple drove into the future, kicking up a bit of dust on their way:
Debby says
August 1, 2008 at 11:02 amMy goodness, I thought you had Starsky’s car there for a second. LOVELY party, thanks for the invite!
Maryjo says
August 1, 2008 at 11:05 amYou two are so adorable I can barely stand it.
Meg says
August 1, 2008 at 11:09 amI feel as if I was there! Thanks for posting this – lovely.
andrea says
August 1, 2008 at 11:23 amThank you so much for sharing this! You are adorable.
Shayera says
August 1, 2008 at 11:26 amSeriously. If you guys were any cuter, I think it might just be against the law.
Bossy's Daughter says
August 1, 2008 at 11:26 amCOOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That was an amazing post!!!
~Monkey says
August 1, 2008 at 11:41 amToday Monkey sees that in fact, BOSSY’s son gets his smile from BOSSY’s brother, and is not in fact a perfect clone of BOSSY’s husband.
Also…I totally did NOT cry at the hug montage between brother and sister.
Sniff.
Assertagirl says
August 1, 2008 at 11:43 amThe photos of you two clasping hands and dancing actually brought tears to my eyes. PMS much?
David says
August 1, 2008 at 11:46 amI’m totally with you on the smashing-cake-in-the-face thing. Total grounds for divorce.
And, hello? 70 people is a small wedding? Really? Yikes. I wouldn’t want more than 50, max.
Apparently Bossy wishes her father were a prominent black actor. I can’t say I see it.
KatieMick says
August 1, 2008 at 11:53 amAh – it’s not a wedding unless Pierre Robert is in attendance.
apathy lounge says
August 1, 2008 at 11:57 amI do feel as if I was right there eating and drinking with abandon. And yet I do not feel the least bit stuffed…or drunk. Thank you, virtual wedding!
Tootsie Farklepants says
August 1, 2008 at 12:10 pmTootsie hopes that Tootsie’s daughter is reading BOSSY’s blog and taking notes. Because this is the simple yet fabulous fare that Tootsie’s daughter’s mother is planning.
Imanitsud says
August 1, 2008 at 12:11 pmSweet.
So what was your “first dance” song?
Awaiting part 3, the honeymoon. On second thought, maybe not. :o)
Momo Fali says
August 1, 2008 at 12:23 pmIs it legal to get married when you’re 12? Because Bossy can’t be much older than that in those pictures.
jules says
August 1, 2008 at 12:30 pmThese wedding posts are great! Thanks for sharing them!
Acher says
August 1, 2008 at 12:31 pmBossy’s mom has phenomenal taste in cars… The wedding story is great, but the sight of an old 900 Turbo really puts a smile on Acher’s face.
Julianne says
August 1, 2008 at 12:32 pmAwesomely awesome. It makes all of wish we were guests are your wedding.
Middle-Aged-Woman says
August 1, 2008 at 12:35 pmSo Bossy’s father went to Black Actors’ School and Bossy’s brother is Scott Baio?!?
Victoria says
August 1, 2008 at 12:40 pm*happy sigh*
The Modern Gal says
August 1, 2008 at 12:40 pmIf I were Bossy, I’d probably seek out that photographer “friend” and give her a piece of my mind. But not until I’d had a few glasses of that wine, of course.
Moi says
August 1, 2008 at 12:41 pmIs it legal for you two to be so cute?
Mrs. G. says
August 1, 2008 at 12:47 pmThese wedding posts have been a real gift. Thanks, Bossy.
Mr Farty says
August 1, 2008 at 12:48 pmNow I see why Bossy takes all the photos for her blog. Never mind, I’m sure those wedding pics will arrive by Bossy’s 30th anniversary.
Cactus Petunia says
August 1, 2008 at 12:49 pmCheers, Bossy and husband!
Happy anniversary, and may you have many, many more!
AnnP says
August 1, 2008 at 1:00 pmOh, charming, charming!
Julianne says
August 1, 2008 at 1:07 pmHappy 20th! What great pictures – thanks for sharing them with us.
I personally love the deer-in-headlights shot of the new “Mrs”. Good call on Bossy’s hubby’s part to immediately remedy the situation with some wine.
anne marie in philly says
August 1, 2008 at 1:10 pmand they lived happily ever after!
the end
(PS – pierre robert? srsly!)
merlotmom says
August 1, 2008 at 1:16 pmI’m cryin’ here, where are the damn tissues… You guys are so cute I could die. I wanna be Bossy.
Liz C says
August 1, 2008 at 1:22 pmDamn, that’s sweet!
I swear, Bossy, in those pix you look like you’re 12. Are you sure that wedding was legal? Hmmm???
Foolery says
August 1, 2008 at 1:30 pmThe cheese spread is divine but I think the clam dip has turned . . . *urp*
Madness says
August 1, 2008 at 1:32 pmAs Awesome As Ever Bossy … MaxX and hisMadness are approaching year SIXTEEN .. alas.. i have NO photos of my wedding day either .. but not because of some hussy photographer .. oh no .. its because of a bottle of booze and a PISSED OFF Madness. I will say no more.
Love,
Madness
(seriously.. i cant BELIEVE she didnt give you your photos.. what tha??)
Jackie@agsoccermom says
August 1, 2008 at 1:36 pmOh I will be married 20 years on the 20th, and you reminded me a friend took some awesome pictures that the developing company lost. 3 whole rolls. Bummer. Guess I better get out my videos and show the kids.
corrie says
August 1, 2008 at 1:50 pmI loved attending this virtual wedding replay! The smiles are infectious!
P.S. I had to laugh at Bossy’s “doe in the headlights” look at the “Mrs.” !! I still have a vivid recollection of introducing my husband to someone on our honeymoon and actually speaking the words “my husband..” and having a moment of stark surprise!
Karen in DE says
August 1, 2008 at 1:52 pmSniff, sniff, this is too sweet. Makes me want to break out my wedding video but it wouldn’t do me any good since it is still in VHS format and our VHS player has long gone the way of the garbage truck.
marchelle says
August 1, 2008 at 2:03 pmThings BOSSY has that I don’t:
a black dad
blue eyeliner
Steve Perry for a brother
Vicki says
August 1, 2008 at 2:24 pmOk, the ex-boyfriend looks a little like a mulletized version of Seinfeld…is mulletized a word? Oh, well! I said it first if not…hehe.
And there are a couple shots of me with that scared shitless look on my face at my wedding too. My 1 year anniversary is Aug.11th. I think I still have that look…lol.
The Domestic Goddess says
August 1, 2008 at 2:29 pmPierre Robert was at your wedding? THAT IS SO FREAKING COOL!
Looks like Bossy and her hubby had the perfect wedding!
The Mom Bomb says
August 1, 2008 at 2:59 pmAWWW! I love me a man in a Bolo tie. And you look like the blonde Ally Sheedy!
ms picket to you says
August 1, 2008 at 3:19 pmi’m all kinds of choked up over here. better start drinking.
pkzcass says
August 1, 2008 at 3:29 pmI have to disagree with Monkey. I never saw it more clearly than today. Bossy’s son IS an exact clone of Bossy’s husband 20 years ago.
Great post! I wouldn’t have thought so when I got married 19 years ago, but you guys had my dream wedding. Er, my dream wedding now, not then.
penny says
August 1, 2008 at 3:44 pmI was infatuated with The Hooters (all of them) in the ’80s! My aunt took me to their concert (my first) for my 12th birthday and we were so happy(!) because they were at their bus before the concert and we got their autographs. They opened for Loverboy and we were like Loverboy WHO? because, seriously? The Hooters!
Dara says
August 1, 2008 at 3:48 pmyou know, your son is a nice combination of BH and bossy.
my Dad grew a beard and looked like Red Foxx—which was ironic, because he was very fond of saying, “it’s the big one, Elizabeth.”
I hope your photographer “friend” reads your blog and you get a big package of photos FedEx.
mommymae says
August 1, 2008 at 3:54 pmi love the way he is looking at you in the still shot of you drinking the wine after you freaked out about being mrs. so much adoration and love.
'Chelle says
August 1, 2008 at 4:21 pmYou never got your photo’s??? That’s horrible! Thank goodness for the video!
These have been great, thanks so much for sharing that moment in life with us.
Cindy Z says
August 1, 2008 at 4:26 pmThanks for sharing! Happy Annivarsary! I love happy ending
Nancy says
August 1, 2008 at 4:29 pm=)
Happy 20th Anniversary Mr. and Mrs. Bossy
These posts have been my favorite of yours.
Cha Cha says
August 1, 2008 at 4:37 pmYou’re the prettiest bride ever. I love these posts, altho I am JEALOUS that you had a Hooter at your wedding. I lurve them.
Cheri @ Blog This Mom! says
August 1, 2008 at 4:38 pmBossy must have been twelve when she got married.
chuck says
August 1, 2008 at 4:43 pmi agree…favorite posts (altho the cross country road trip was a favorite too. aw, hell. i like ’em all!).
looks like an amazing wedding; better than most of those cookie cutter ones i have been to in the past. you don’t strike me as a “let’s do the chicken dance!” person, thank god.
JennyG says
August 1, 2008 at 4:44 pmI love Pierre Robert! Listened to him since I was teen.
I am also loving these past two wedding entries.
Thanks, Bossy!:-)
Smalltown Mom says
August 1, 2008 at 4:47 pmI love the hair and the kisses.
Eloise says
August 1, 2008 at 4:48 pmI have really enjoyed these posts. Happy Anniversary, Bossy and Bossy’s Husband! Wishing you many, many more happy years together.
Kate says
August 1, 2008 at 5:00 pmBossy appears to have been a child bride!
mandy313 says
August 1, 2008 at 5:49 pmLoved your wedding post! We just celebrated our 20th July 9 – it’s still the record high temp in Pittsburgh for that date – 100 degrees!!!! Luckily, it was the ’80s and everybody had poofy hair/mullets, and the humidity just made them bigger which, of course, equals better.
Also, I can’t watch my wedding video anymore. There’s so many people who have died since that anytime my 7 year-old and her dad watch it I start to cry and have to leave the room. But maybe it also has something to do with the hideous ’80s fashions.
dgm says
August 1, 2008 at 6:07 pmAnd they lived happily ever after.
BTW, it looks like the sign on the back of the car says, “Just Marred.”
Philly says
August 1, 2008 at 6:22 pmIs that Pierre R., the local DJ?
#1
kym b says
August 1, 2008 at 6:43 pmWhat a lovely wedding!
Love the comment from Bossy’s daughter. You have a wonderful family.
superblondgirl says
August 1, 2008 at 6:59 pmGod, you guys were so adorable and so eighties. I love it!!
Chesapeake Bay Woman says
August 1, 2008 at 7:15 pmBossy made a beautiful bride.
I’ve been struggling all day to figure out who Bossy’s Dad looks like. I finally determined it is the picture of Bossy on Martin Luther King Day where she had the thick, dark eyebrows.
That’s settles it then. Bossy’s Dad looks like Martin Luther King. The trend continues.
Peg says
August 1, 2008 at 7:42 pmJust terrific. I swear the Bossy family needs their own sitcom!
rockle says
August 1, 2008 at 8:38 pmZOMG PIERRE ROBERT SQUEEE! He is not just famous, he is an INSTITUTION. You are officially the coolest blogger EVAH.
c says
August 1, 2008 at 8:46 pmso bossy is african american? kewl!
Swistle says
August 1, 2008 at 9:23 pmI loved this, and I can’t believe you don’t have the wedding photos. Can’t believe! That is… Hey, do you want me to help you break into her house/office?
amy says
August 1, 2008 at 10:19 pmGreat pics and narration! Sorry to hear about your lame ass photographer. You should track her down, seriously. But pretty cool how you took pics of the video. Looked like my kind of wedding. Smallish and full of people who loved you two.
And man does your son look like his dad!
A Whole Lot of Nothing says
August 1, 2008 at 10:33 pmI can’t stand the happiness. You are definitely someone who has remained true to yourself, and I admire that.
The Cube Monkey says
August 1, 2008 at 11:44 pmjeeezy creezy…what were you?…12 when you got married? hahaha you were gorgeous…the wedding looked like alot of fun and by the way, no matter how many words/syllables, buttercream is the bomb!
Dharmamama says
August 2, 2008 at 9:42 amHappy Anniversary, Bossy and Bossy’s husband! And here’s to many, many more.
Dharmamama says
August 2, 2008 at 9:44 amOh, yeah – I forgot. I had a friend offer to take pictures at my wedding too, because professional photographer = $$$. I never saw those pictures, either.
I guess you’re actually paying to get them back, not for the photographer to take them.
dlyn says
August 2, 2008 at 12:50 pmHappy 20th bossy and Mr bossy – enjoy your vacation!
Jen says
August 2, 2008 at 1:14 pmThat was a total trip into the 80s! Whew! Mullets and big hair. I kind of miss those days.
lissa says
August 2, 2008 at 1:35 pmGetting married isn’t scarey, until someone calls you mrs. I went to the bank the week after I was married and couldn’t spell my new last name. That’s when I realized I was married.
surcie says
August 2, 2008 at 2:54 pmAnd we danced! Like a wave on the ocean, romanced. . .
Sorry. You mentioned the Hooters, and now that song is stuck in my head.
Steve Perry? No way. That’s totally Kevin Cronin from REO Speedwagon!
Little Miss Sunshine State says
August 2, 2008 at 9:20 pmI wore pearls. Your wedding jewelry was much cooler.
There is no video of our wedding because we got married before VCRs were invented!
I’m totally doing a wedding recap in Sept.
Chelsea says
August 2, 2008 at 9:50 pmI’m particularly fond of Bossy’s blue eyeliner. And the socks she wore with the skirt at the shower.
Your wedding video looks way more fun than mine. I’m jealous.
Sparx says
August 3, 2008 at 3:50 amYou two just look so young… Not that you look that much older these days I hasten to add, m’dear! Friends of mine never got their wedding pics either, photographer friend disappeared and turned up many years later claiming no knowledge. Happiest of anniversaries anyhoo!
Linda says
August 3, 2008 at 8:02 amLove the wedding posts! You got to have Andy King at your wedding?! DREAMY!!
Loralee says
August 3, 2008 at 1:49 pmThis pretty much kicks ass over my first wedding. Utah wedding receptions can be painfully boring affairs.
(Things would totally perk up if wine were served. Of this I am certain.)
erin says
August 3, 2008 at 3:20 pmI couldn’t take my eyes off of Bossy’s husband’s mullet!!!
Christine says
August 4, 2008 at 12:07 amI am happily married, but this makes me wish I would have been a young bride.
Lisa says
August 4, 2008 at 1:48 pmI asked my uncle to videotape the wedding. He handed the video camera to his (then) 14-year old son with ADHD. (Or maybe they only had ADD back then.) Anyway – long story short: no wedding video to speak of. Luckily we hired a pro for the stills.
emma says
August 4, 2008 at 2:56 pmwow you look just like a british singer named kate nash ! (:
so pretty bossy !
Jen says
August 5, 2008 at 10:21 amOMG I’m listening to Pierre Robert right now!
Kyla says
August 6, 2008 at 10:03 pmLook at your sweet little baby face!
Gette says
March 31, 2009 at 9:22 amSo the friend-as-photographer not working out theme is not just me? Cool. Ours had an excuse, though. Her dad died shortly after our wedding so she kinda got a little busy. The pics weren’t bad when we finally got them, but we never got the entire wedding party to stand still in one place all together.
We did ours quick and cheap, too. Been married almost as long as you. Not quite as cute, though…