Bossy has become just a little obsessed with subwaycrush.com, the latest social networking site that focuses on missed connections. Divided by city—including New York, Boston, Chicago, San Francisco, and London—people leave messages for fellow subway passengers they didn’t have the nerve to meet when they had the chance.
I noticed you sitting down. We locked eyes for a split second longer than normal before both looking away. You stood up and the guy in the doorway took your seat.
Were you the guy who locked eyes with this girl? If you’re not sure, here’s another hint: you stood up. And if there’s a doubt remaining in your mind: when you stood up, a guy took your seat. Hurry and respond already!
Or how about this one:
I saw you again this evening—3rd time! Alabama sweatshirt and NC shorts. I really really want to talk to you or just get another smile.
And Bossy can totally relate, because often when she wants to meet someone on the subway, here’s what she does: she gets off the subway. Then she walks home, turns on her computer, and leaves the guy a message on subwaycrush.com. It’s as good as talking, really, because then when you see him again Oh Sister Mercy you have another chance to talk, so here’s what you do: You get off the subway. Again. You go home, turn on your computer, and leave the guy another message on a website he doesn’t read. Rinse and repeat.
Or how about this one:
Stripe Shirt, Stripe Pants, I do not know if this is a fashion faux pas and I do not care.
Because Bossy isn’t really sure if you should begin your relationship with an insult. It’s just a suggestion. Or how about this one?
I don’t know what to say other than: I would normally be repulsed by all your tattoos and black wardrobe, but I kinda liked the way you looked.
That is so, so sweet. And while Bossy thinks she read something just like this in a Hallmark card, here’s the thing: it’s better if you really like something about the person you are trying to court. And it’s even better if you have something in common, for instance this:
You— cute hipster guy in sweaty green shirt, little hat with striped band, reading The Jungle.
Me— sitting next to you, reading over your shoulder, from Bedford to Union Square.
Let me know when you get to the part with the rats.
Sweaty green shirt aside, isn’t it darling that they already have a shared interest in literature?
In Other News: don’t miss Bossy’s new feature now residing in her left column: Bossy’s Featured Gay!
Kristin says
October 22, 2008 at 9:23 ammissed opportunities or bunch of lame-os?
You decide.
Lauren says
October 22, 2008 at 9:24 amI met a boy on the subway in New York on the one-year anniversary of September 11th. We’ve been friends ever since.
vuboq says
October 22, 2008 at 9:36 amI *heart* missed connections! I’m always looking to see if someone miss connected me … no one ever does. *le sigh*
My Name is Cat says
October 22, 2008 at 9:37 amA site for people afraid to make the first move. It’s much safer to post and wait for an answer. Of course, I haven’t had to make any move in twenty years, so what do I know?
Bossy's Friend Amy says
October 22, 2008 at 10:49 amGreat! Just great, yet another web-site to obsess over while at work. Thanks Bossy!
the cheap chick says
October 22, 2008 at 10:50 amThis sounds as much fun as Overheard In New York. Although, in my neck of the woods, we have Overheard in Minneapolis – equally as fun, but without the subways.
But hey! We have light rail – does that count?
kate says
October 22, 2008 at 11:21 amthis is like seven kinds of bizarre.
David says
October 22, 2008 at 11:48 amI love these because they make me feel soooo much better about myself and my social skills.
Tootsie Farklepants says
October 22, 2008 at 12:16 pmMissed connections in Los Angeles would go something like this:
I would normally want to do bodily harm to jackasses who cut me off in traffic then block me when I try to get on the freeway, but there was something about the way to claimed the far right lane as your own that was sort of manly and bitchen. I hope we can do it again sometime. P.s. I’m not really a fan of Corvettes. Maybe if we hooked up you’d trade it for a Porche? Toodleooo.
Liz says
October 22, 2008 at 12:32 pmFirst, Tootsie, as a fellow Angeleno, that’s hilarious! There should be a website like “jammed up freeway crush” or something just for cities like ours.
Second, has anyone ever checked out the “missed connections” on Craiglist? More of the same, but with a variety of surroundings… grocery stores, gas stations, karaoke bars! It’s part of my daily amusement 🙂
Reeb says
October 22, 2008 at 12:42 pmI stand amazed at the websites that you (Bossy and others) find. My best score to date was iambossy.com.
Z. Mulls says
October 22, 2008 at 1:06 pmI thought the post was going to be about how BOSSY looked like a hot Amy Winehouse.
Cuz, you know, enough booze on a weeknight and it could be sorta true….
Mz. Nesbit says
October 22, 2008 at 1:58 pmwhatta creepy site. like honestly.
“U were wearing a green shirt. and U looked hot. U picked your nose at the Green street exit. Contact me and I’ll make UR dreams come true” Um, yuck! lol
foolery says
October 22, 2008 at 2:11 pmTootsie did it WAY better than I could, but this is what my missed connections website would be:
commutercrush.com
“Early model red Lexus coupe, west-bound, that I see every day between 8:19 and 8:22. You look vaguely male, though I can’t be sure. The beard is my best guide. Wave if you get this, but don’t stick your hand out too far, ’cause you know — closing speed of 140.”
davido says
October 22, 2008 at 2:21 pmOh, I’m SURE I’m so totally famous on subwaycrush, because… I rode the subway once. Yeah, sure, it was probably before the interwebs were invented, but people have memories .. right? Hey, wait, we’re going to NYC with the kiddies after Xmas, so I’ll have another chance. .. but then it will be like: “Missed you on the Subway, and I want to date your daughter.” Hey you punk! Get off my virtual lawn!
Mrs. G. says
October 22, 2008 at 3:02 pmThis seems like so much work when a simple wink or nudge could do the trick. Yeah, I’m old.
Lance says
October 22, 2008 at 3:04 pmWhile I agree it is a somewhat weak way of meeting someone, bear in mind it is only one-step removed from internet dating. And I can say firsthand, since being thrown back into the jungle out there, that internet dating has some benefits. Especially for someone not used to dating in over 20 years! And, I wished I had known about this subway site last week when I was up in NYC and got a glance/smile from a very pretty 30+ something who got off at Union Square (Sothbound Q train at 12:15-ish)…..WOW!
Mr Farty says
October 22, 2008 at 6:13 pmYou: Wild, multi-colored hair, incredibly long invisible arms, great photoshop skillz, sitting blogging about your fave gays.
Me: Fat, balding, married, five time zones and an ocean away.
So. When can we meet? 😛
clickmom says
October 22, 2008 at 7:30 pmI fantasize that just about everyone I make contact with is dreaming about me for days after. But I’d never go on line and check. That would take all the fun out of it!
Chesapeake Bay Woman says
October 22, 2008 at 9:35 pmWait a sec.
I thought there was already a site devoted to secret (and not-so-secret) crushes with a splash or two of wanton desire sprinkled with anonymity.
That’s why I read Bossy every day.
The husbands and boyfriends.
qt says
October 22, 2008 at 10:02 pmI am addicted to missed connections. Thanks for the new browsing material.
PAPA says
October 22, 2008 at 11:44 pmsometimes when i’m bored at work i’ll leave a missed connection on craigslist for my wife…she never sees it.
She doesn’t know what she’s missing.
Melanie @ MelADramatic Mommy says
October 23, 2008 at 4:03 amI’ve never ridden on a subway but I’m pretty sure I’d keep my eyes glued to the floor until my stop. There would be no crushing. Except maybe the roaches?
Pamela says
October 23, 2008 at 9:24 amWhat a bunch of fraidy-cat, socially retarded people we have become. And really, Bossy could never look like Amy Winehouse. Even if Bossy were to get hit by a train, and subsequently run over by a convoy of drug traffickers, and later had that black eye gunk applied to Bossy’s face by the entire Eagles team, and then was mistaken for a voodoo doll by someone who stuck lots of needles in Bossy’s arms and between her toes. Bossy would still not look like Amy Winehouse.
MommyTime says
October 23, 2008 at 10:29 amThis is totally hilarious. There was a section like this in the little local paper when I was in graduate school, and that sort of worked because (a) the ads were very specific and (b) the readership area was pretty small. It was a fair bet that “you had on a red sweatshirt and puked all over my leopard-print shoes” would be reading those personals. Just as soon as his hangover subsided enough for him to open his eye, that is.
Kelly says
October 23, 2008 at 10:53 amThat seriously sounds insanely endearing. The silly, sweet ache of it.
cog says
October 23, 2008 at 11:01 amstrangely, I check out Missed Connections on CL regularly, though I’m not sure that someone would leave something addressed to me, unless it was:
Me: Female
You: a limping, quaking, aged Quasimodo without the lisp, but in a good way. Wanna ring my bells?
Brava97 says
October 23, 2008 at 6:43 pmMy college newspaper (grad ’91) had a missed connections section. Every time I locked eyes with someone, I would obsessively read that section for the next several days. Never found one meant for me. Doesn’t matter, met my husband there anyway.
meleah rebeccah says
October 24, 2008 at 1:43 pm“Because Bossy isn’t really sure if you should begin your relationship with an insult.”
HA HA HA
you crack me up. ALWAYS
Dharmamama says
October 25, 2008 at 9:17 amI just remembered this story, from last year: http://tinyurl.com/69hcmb
I didn’t go to the subway crush site, so I don’t know if it was started before or after this happened – but it can work!
Rhea says
October 26, 2008 at 12:08 pmWhat an interesting idea for a website! I love connections, even missed ones. How wild if someone did end up hooking up from that site. :o)